New Dating Trend "Stashing" Is Brutal, And Will Probably Be Painfully Familiar
I went on a date a few days ago (I know, right, go me). Anyway, this particular girl had a pretty unconventional dating method. People always say to never talk about your exes around potential partners and I definitely didn’t want to, but for some reason this girl wanted to know about all of my girlfriends and general dating life.
Luckily there wasn’t much to tell her (go me) but the point remained. Odd, right? Definitely refreshing and for sure beats normal date chat but I suppose I just didn’t see it coming. Nice girl, though… big fan.
That would be an example of oversharing in the ol’ dating field and I’m not sure there’s a word for that, but thanks to the internet, there’s now a word for the opposite.
It’s called Stashing and it essentially means when your significant other tries to keep their life as secret from you as possible – think Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days of Summer.
While you may have introduced your girlfriend or boyfriend to all of the important people in your life, you may notice that you haven’t met any of their equivalents – well buddy, your SO is stashing on you.
You can tag them on memes on Facebook all you like but you’re not getting any likes back and certainly no tagging yourself. That’s when it occurs to you; does anyone in their life know you exist?
Apparently, the point of ‘stashing’ is so that the person that you thought you were in a relationship can go off and be unfaithful without feeling bad about it. In their eyes, they’ve given you every indication that you’re not in a real relationship so you can’t get mad… because that’s how some people think.
The chaps at Metro coined the phrase, and said about it:
“You know when someone hurriedly tidies their room and shoves a jumble of stuff in a cupboard so it’s not on show, so they don’t have to think about it until later?
When you’re being stashed, you’re that jumble of stuff. And that doesn’t exactly make you feel valued or respected.“
Well that sounds dangerously familiar. Didn’t realise writing this was going to open up old wounds…
I just really hate Zooey Deschanel’s Summer. Joseph Gordon-Levitt deserved so much better.
SO MUCH BETTER!
Also someone love me, for fuck’s sake.
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